Has Valentine's Day in the past been less than spectacular? Are you getting the cold shoulder, rather than the warm reception that you would like? Do you wonder what you could do to increase the chances that Valentine's Day will be a romantic celebration of your love, rather than a reminder of the distance between you? Consistency is the key.

If you want those special days to be wonderful then you need to put your relationship where it belongs, at the top of the priority list. If you ignore your relationship except for special occasions, you will most likely find those special efforts falling flat. It is the little things done on a consistent basis that bond two people together. When partners are feeling connected and close, the special days become times to treasure, rather than times to endure or avoid.

Remember, it is the little things done consistently that will help to add the sizzle to the day. Consistency can make the difference between the sizzle and the cold shoulder.

Start now preparing for next years Valentine's Day. The following are some suggestions that may help to make next years Valentine's the best one ever:

Hugs every day, morning and night.
Listen, listen, listen. Avoid defensiveness and blame.
Be respectful and kind.
Help around the house.
Do something everyday to demonstrate your love for your partner.
Continue courting.
Go on a date once a week.
Say “I love you”often.
Show your partner that you love them more often.
Learn what you can do to make your partner smile, laugh and feel loved. Then do it.
Make your relationship a top priority.
Smile.
Make spending time with your partner a priority.
Create happy memories to treasure.
Reminisce together about your fun times.

Avoid thinking the grass may be greener on the other side of the fence and start watering your own grass.