Division of Responsibility
A frequent bone of contention for couples is the perceived unfairness of the division of responsibility. The following is a simple self-monitoring form to help you keep track of the time you spend on household responsibilities and to estimate the amount of time your partner spends on these responsibilities. When you each do this and compare results you can end up with some interesting insights.
The goal is not to start a fight. The goal is to gather information, be open minded and look for ways to either make the division of responsibilities more fair, or to see it more accurately.
Self Monitoring Chart
| Responsibility | Your Time Spent/Week | Estimate of Partner's Time/Week |
|---|---|---|
| Working outside the home | ||
| Commuting | ||
| Preparing Food | ||
| Doing Laundry | ||
| Cleaning House | ||
| Shopping for Food & Necessities | ||
| Budgeting & Paying Bills | ||
| Caring for Children | ||
| Helping Children with Homework | ||
| Taking Children to Activities | ||
| Household Repairs | ||
| Home Improvements | ||
| Repairing the Car | ||
| Financial/Legal Matters | ||
| Caring for Parents or In-Laws | ||
| Schooling | ||
| Organizing Vacations | ||
| Shopping for Gifts | ||
| Feel free to add your own | ||